Question: Do old people need to use condoms?

YES!!! Safe sex is for everyone. Of all AIDS patients, about 29% are over 50 (not old but you get the point). A lot of experts feel that this is because older people become single and may lack awareness of the HIV/AIDs threat. Face it people, old people do it too!

Well, you would not have to use condoms in a marital situation (assuming its monogamous). But if I was going with somebody new, then I would say a BIG yes. It’s just not safe anymore. It’s a terrible shame.

Question: How can I get my teenagers to understand sex – without feeling like I know nothing and getting totally embarrassed?

Answer: My suggestion is to start early with the help of a good book with anatomical pictures in it. You might want your children to have this information before they become a quivering mass of hormones. Pictures help bring it all together.

For me, I was not taught very explicit things in my sex education, and you may not have been either. I am so thankful for my sister. She taught me a whole lot of things – like you need to take care of yourself and how – that helped me in my general healthy sexual identity and confidence. I’m very thankful for her!

Since you may feel a little embarrassed, I suggest you buy a really good sex book and talk it through. Choose one that has male and female anatomy, that talks about birth control, and taking care of your body. Let your teens know that it’s ok to come to you, but also suggest that they talk with other trusted adults like a pastor or a teacher.

Why don’t you tell them the truth? Just say it – I feel really embarrassed talking with you about sex. There are things I don’t know that much about, like birth control or the body. That’s why I think you’ll like this book. The trick is you can never be judgmental in your answers or they will never ever come back to you again.

Question: Do different races have different size equipment (penises)? And can you tell from a guy’s hands or feet?

Answer: Lots of studies have gauged the relationship between race and penis size (it’s true!) but none have been conclusive. Same for hands, feet, nose and teeth. Perhaps you would like to conduct your own sizeologist experiment and report your conclusions here. We’d love to know.

Question: I’m 23 years old and a college student. I want to bring my boyfriend home and sleep together. I’ve never been able to talk with my mom about

Answer: First, I encourage you to talk truthfully with your parents if you feel safe enough to do so. They may be more understanding than you may imagine. We parents are a lot smarter than you think!

Secondly, you can’t be at home for a while without sleeping with your boyfriend? Especially if this is important to your mother, who’s been your mother all your life and you’ve had this boyfriend for 6 months? Your mother isn’t stupid, she probably knows you’re sleeping together. But there are certain proprieties. There may be a father involved too, so it’s a family thing and I can see why a father would be upset. If you’re home for a week, I don’t see why you can’t abstain. I’m not a prude, but who is this guy – and will he even be around in six months?

This might be a good time to bring up sex with your mom. You could say something like this: I want you to know that we’re having sex or living together – and because I respect you I want to talk with you about it, and we’re not do it at your home, but I’d like you to think about it and maybe next time we can sleep together.

Anyway, now you think you can’t get enough of this Don Juan – but then you’ll be happy to get away because you can’t stand his snoring.

Question: My wife stays dry, no matter what I do. Does that mean I don’t excite her?

Answer: Scratch that idea from your mind. Few women in the world would marry a man that did not excite her. There are many reasons a woman doesn’t self-lubricate and it doesn’t have to do with desire or attraction. So as long as she feels excited, don’t worry about that, and buy some lubricants. And if you don’t like one, try another. From silicone to water-based to natural, there are plenty of lubes to pick from. It’s not a big deal. If it’s still a concern, go see a doctor.

Question: How do I last longer in bed?

Answer: Easy. You need to identify where you’re ‘losing it’ – the point of no return – and do the following to make it last. (Products can help too, so check out Juntos Male Sustaining Cream.)

The first time you identify this point where ejaculation is inevitable, go straight from 0 to 60 without stopping. Act as if you were taking a leisurely drive with no destination in mind. Do it alone first and focus on you. Pay attention to your body and what is going on. When your heart beats quicker, breathing rate and muscle tension increase, you’ll notice pre come and your testes rising, you are almost there.

The second time, act as if you were driving somewhere for the first time. Look and listen for body cues as you would road signs. When you feel the cues that you’re close, stop stimulation and think about something unsexy, like your alarm clock. If you are with your lover, kiss her, giver her oral pleasure or stimulation. When you’re relaxed, start stimulation again. With practice you’ll last longer each time.

Question: My wife is 60 and has decided she doesn’t want sex anymore. What should I do?

Answer: Well, don’t get a 20 year old girlfriend! Seriously, it used to be that after turning 60 it was assumed you would just be a nice old “man or lady.” Well, I’ve got news for you! It is no longer the golden years –.it's the “SEXY GOLDEN YEARS.”

I know my husband is about as romantic as Barney Fife (he's a great guy in every other sense). But occasionally I have to remind him to pick up the romance with some kind talk, extra affection, or a bubble bath.

Most women enjoy sex even in the later decades, and maintain the ability to orgasm, although it may take a little longer. (Nothing wrong with more bedtime – what the heck else is there to do — garden?) Also, most woman will have issues with vaginal dryness after a certain age – so use plenty of lubrication (my daughter makes a great variety of lubricants):

On the other hand, your wife may be depressed or in need of a medical checkup. Never hurts to check with a doctor. Be patient with her – and a little romance might help!